Another posting from Ariela Rutkin-Becker:
Last week I wrote about Nigel Summers’ limited understanding of Julie and its parallels in my own life.
This week I want to write about the final line that Julie’s father leaves his daughter with on page 98: “You choose to go to hell in your own way.”
What a line, huh? This line epitomizes Nigel’s confusion about Julie’s actions. In his mind, Julie is heading down an unstable, dangerous path-and he has practically given up on trying to reverse her direction.
But on further thought, is “going to hell in your own way” really such a bad thing to do?
Class of ’11, welcome to college. Welcome to a new stage in your life-and I say “stage” intentionally, as a theatrical stage. As the years fly by here at Cornell, you might find that people who have played large roles drift into more minor, supporting ones. You might find that some people who used to stand on the same stage as you drifting into the audience.
All of a sudden, you’re on a stage which is really yours to control. For the first time ever, you’re directing the lighting (when do I sleep?). The sound (frat party tonight or Jazz at the Johnson?). Choosing the action (What will I major in? What clubs do I want to join? What road am I going down?)
And what comes naturally with an audience? The theater critics. I’ve found that the more action I’ve taken of my life, the more I have made my own production public- the more I’ve put myself out there to be open to criticism. This criticism has come in blatant ways- Facebook comments and emails about a controversial Sun article- or much more subtle ones- like losing contact with people from home as we pursue our own dramas, our own stages.
I can’t control what people say or what stage they are on in their own lives. The only thing I can control is how I interpret their criticism. It’s a tricky balance to vulnerably listen to what people have to say and reflect on it, and on the other hand to keep your head up high, marching to the beat of the drum that maybe only you can hear.
But that balance is exactly what college is for, to me. Taking risks. Figuring out what makes your stage your own. Choosing to “go to hell” in my own way: or, to re-work it, choosing to go wherever my drama leads me to.
So, even if in a critic’s eyes I’m going to “hell,” I can know that it’s a hell that I’ve created. A hell that is comprised of my accomplishments and my mistakes. A hell that Nigel Summers can’t define, and a hell that Julie Summers doesn’t fear.



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